Individual Relationship Therapy

For When Relationships Feel Like a Minefield (and You’re Tired of Tiptoeing)

If relationships leave you feeling anxious, not good enough, or like you're constantly trying to earn your place, you're not alone — and you're not broken. For many people living with anxiety, low self-esteem, or eating disorders, relationships can feel like walking a tightrope: trying to stay close without losing yourself, trying to be loved without feeling like a burden, trying to feel safe without shutting down.

Underneath all that effort is often something deeper: attachment patterns — the templates we formed early in life for how connection works. These patterns aren't character flaws; they're strategies your nervous system developed to try to get your needs met. You may have learned that love means being hyper-vigilant, not rocking the boat, always being “the strong one,” or earning approval through perfection. Or you may feel like no matter how much you give, it's never quite enough. On the flip side, you might keep your guard up because closeness feels overwhelming or unpredictable.

These patterns can be subtle — but powerful. They shape how you interpret silence, how you react to conflict, how you handle vulnerability, and how you relate to your own needs. And they can leave you feeling like you’re always guessing: Am I too much? Not enough? Why do I always end up here?

In therapy, we’ll gently explore where these patterns come from — not to dwell in the past, but to give you more choice in the present. Using tools from ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), somatic work, and attachment-informed approaches, we’ll start to unlearn the old rules that no longer serve you. That might mean learning to trust your gut again, to set boundaries without guilt, to tolerate discomfort without shutting down, or to feel your feelings without needing to “fix” them.

We’ll also work on repairing your relationship with yourself — because when you begin to feel more secure and connected inside, your external relationships start to shift, too. You don't have to keep proving your worth, earning your place, or guessing how others feel. You can learn to show up with more clarity, more calm, and more confidence.

Healing attachment wounds takes time and care — but you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy can offer a safe, steady place to begin.