Therapy for Perfectionism & Low Self-Esteem

Because “never good enough” isn’t a sustainable life philosophy.

Perfectionism can look like a polished résumé, a clean house, or a color-coded to-do list. But it feels like tight shoulders, a lump in your throat, or lying awake at night rehashing a conversation from three days ago. It feels like always bracing for failure, even when things are going well. Like walking around with an invisible measuring stick and constantly coming up short.

Low self-esteem is sneaky. It might sound like:  “Why would they want to be close to me?”  “If I make a mistake, they’ll see I’m a fraud.”  “I’ll finally feel okay about myself… when I do better, look better, achieve more.”  You may have learned to over-function, to people-please, to stay small, or to pretend you’re fine when you’re anything but.

Together, these patterns can leave you feeling chronically anxious, burned out, and oddly disconnected from the real you—the one underneath the masks and performance.

In therapy, we’ll slow things down and get curious about what’s driving all this striving. We’ll explore the different voices inside you—like the inner critic, the overachiever, or the part of you that’s scared to stop trying so hard—and begin to understand what they’re protecting. We'll look at how to move toward what truly matters to you, rather than staying stuck in fear or comparison. And we’ll bring the body into the conversation, noticing where old beliefs and tension live under the surface, so you can start to feel more grounded and at ease from the inside out.

This work isn’t about flipping a switch or suddenly not caring what others think. It’s about softening into a kinder, more honest relationship with yourself.

You don’t have to be perfect to be lovable. Or accomplished to be enough. You’re allowed to just be you.

And I’d be honored to help you remember that.