If you've ever felt the sharp sting of rejection or the heavy ache of loneliness, you know it's not "all in your head." As a psychotherapist, I see it every day: the deep, tangible pain of a broken heart. It turns out, your brain agrees....
When most people hear the name Gottman, they think of couples’ therapy—love maps, bids for connection, repair attempts, the infamous “four horsemen.” It’s all about strengthening bonds, building trust, and keeping love alive. But here’s the plot twist: those same tools aren’t just for romantic...
Having some knowledge about healthy eating habits is generally helpful. Implementing such knowledge is even more helpful – to a point. When a person spends an excessive amount of time thinking about the quality of one’s diet and taking great measures to eat in a...
As the New Year approaches, you may be evaluating what has transpired this year, and what you’d like to experience in the year to come. The following questions may help you to constructively and compassionately consider where you’ve progressed during this year, where possibly you’ve...
What constitutes trauma or adversity? Essentially anything that causes physical or psychological pain or injury. This includes personal illness or injury, witnessing the same in someone else, natural disasters, enduring abuse, the death of someone close to us, job loss, addiction, financial problems, relationship difficulties,...
It’s been said that we are human beings, not human doings. Reminding ourselves of this concept can help us to keep things in perspective. Busyness can masquerade as “getting things done”, which may temporarily bolster our self-esteem, at least on the surface. However, putting excessive...
Be it in work or personal situations, the ability to communicate effectively can make the difference between a cooperative and enlightening conversation and a combative and anxiety-provoking argument. In the longer run, good communication can deepen and enrich a relationship which poor communication might otherwise...
Are you the type who instantly attunes to another person’s experience and seemingly knows the right things to say and do? Or do you secretly wonder if you’re just lacking in the empathy gene? Empathy refers to the capacity to comprehend and other people’s feelings...
“How dare she do such a thing?” “I’ll never get over this!” “I want him to pay for his actions!” “I’ll never be able to trust him/her/anyone again.” When we’ve been hurt by someone, any or all of these thoughts can plague us. We’re filled...
Whether or not you set resolutions for the New Year, you probably would like to maintain or increase your happiness quotient. If so, the following tips may prove to be helpful: Write down three positive things that happened to you each day and think about...